Hey! Tell us a little about yourself.
I’m a ballerina. A black belt. A magician’s assistant. A vintage shop owner. A mother. A wife. A vagabond at heart. I believe in true love. I believe in reincarnation. I believe in euphoria. I believe in the stars mirrored in my baby’s eyes.
Is the life you lead now the life you've always dreamt of?
I always dreamed of being my mother...the gypsy, the wild card, the force of nature who brought entire civilizations down to their knees in complete awe. I dreamed of a life that allowed freedom, nurtured passion, and brought an endless parade of dreamers and misfits into my path. The life I dreamt of was an ever-changing kaleidoscope of color, of light, of bare feet, of mermaid hair, of open fields, and a heart seeped in love. I dreamt of being everywhere, doing everything...freedom was in options. I dreamed of traveling, of living in a sanctuary 100 years old, of tall grass and honeybees. The life I lead now is the ultimate convergence of all the shattered images I’d dreamed of for so long. I found love in my husband, light in my son...sanctuary in my home, freedom in the way we live our lives together.
Fear affects us all at some point. What part has fear played in your life and how have you overcome it?
There have been unspeakable difficulties in my past, terror and horror and gut-wrenching pain. Through all of that, for as long as I can remember, I found refuge in the person - in the entire world - I’d created in my head. I was my own sanctuary and I knew myself intimately. At a young age I looked in the mirror, into the depths of my own eyes and decided that the person inside would not be defined by the tragedies of those around me. I wouldn’t succumb to the chaos. I dug my heels down to the center of the earth and let the storms rage around me. I would be safe inside my head where I was untouchable, unbreakable. I liked myself too much to let it take me.
But I was caught off guard. I realized one day, quite abruptly, that I feared letting others down...I was so wrapped up in protecting myself from the world and people around me, I had forgotten to protect myself from me. I had developed a warped, distorted version of what was expected of me and projected it onto everything I did, everything I touched. Desperate, I started making decisions based only on solely what made me happy and my world quite literally exploded around me. I didn’t recognize myself. I no longer recognized my life. So I went back to the sanctuary I’d spent a lifetime building inside my head and before long I rediscovered the soul inside. I no longer feared displeasing others to make myself happy and make the best decisions for me.
What do you think are the three most important things you need to lead a happy and radiant life?
* Disconnect and follow your instincts. Don’t let society dictate decisions in your life...who you need to marry, where you need to live, or what you need to look like. You know what’s best for you...not your neighbors. Too many people get caught up in the hollow existence of the fabled American Dream. Spontaneity and experiences are what real dreams are made of.
* Consider your own happiness before anyone else’s. If you aren’t happy, you are dooming yourself and everyone around you to a lifetime of misery.
* Appreciate every second of every day. The color of a blade of grass, the out of tone piano key that rings in your ears. A baby’s hand wrapped around yours...a forehead kiss from someone you love. Concern yourself more with the little things around you and worry less about money and the what-ifs you can’t control. If you can find happiness and beauty in the world around you, and be content with your life at every stage, money and stress can’t control you. And that’s where you find freedom.
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